My approach is a blend of therapeutic talking/mind-based interaction, body-based/embodiment exercises, and/or educational-therapeutic touch. I will frequently ask you to pause and take a breath or tune in to a part of your body while speaking or moving. The session experience is completely dependent upon what we are working on and our comfort level in the moment.
Empathy, sovereignty, authenticity, and integrity are cornerstones of the work we do together. With these in mind, I reserve the right to refuse sessions to anyone for any reason. If we speak or meet and one or both of us decides we are not a good match, I will happily refer you to a colleague or two that may be a better fit.
I am unapologetically and radically queer, trans-inclusive, consent-based, sex-positive, feminist, anti-oppressive, trauma-informed, kink-knowledgeable, and poly-normative in my values. I recognize these values are ideals to continuously strive toward and desire to create a safer space based upon these ideals. I also recognize I may fall short of these ideals and will always welcome feedback on how I can do better.
My work is therapeutic and educational, but not therapy or counseling. I am not a licensed Counselor or Therapist; I am a Coach. For more information on the distinction, please read my disclaimer.
Who Do I Work With?
I work with people of all genders, sexualities, bodies, experiences, and relationship configurations. Because of my own personal identities and experiences, I especially understand the struggles of clients who are queer, trans, genderqueer/non-binary, LGBPQA+, fem(me), fat, kinky, non-monogamous/polyamorous, pagan/witchy/spiritual, geeky, academic, or any combination of these.
I can work with you one-on-one or as a couple or poly group.
Sessions are in-person or via the internet, and uniquely personalized to your goals and needs. We will use a variety of modalities and tools to provide loving, compassionate support and empathic witnessing. Touch can be involved if that is appropriate for what we are working on together, but it is never a guarantee or requirement.
I find my clients come to me because something has changed in the way they are relating to themselves, their lover(s), and/or the world. Something is missing that was there before, in the way that wasn’t there before, or they are seeking for something more than what they’ve already experienced. Often clients are looking to work on:
- Issues with libido
- Lack of desire
- Lack of pleasurable sensation
- Relearning to set, communicate, and maintain boundaries
- Body image issues
- Challenges with communicating desire
- Aversion to touch and/or intimacy
- Pain in the pelvic floor
- Arousal challenges
- Shame or fear around sexuality
- Body numbness
- Coping with body or relationship changes/transitions
- Seeking the sacred in sexual experiences
Mostly, something feels off, and my clients are looking for support and guidance to a greater depth of experience and a more whole version of themselves and their sex/life!
How Do I Work?
Ultimately, my work is to help guide you toward a more positive experience with yourself, your relationships, and the world around you. To do this, my practice centers around embodiment, emotions, empathy, shadow and shame work, body image, self-worth, sexual and relational trauma, boundaries, and the unending quest for wholeness that is part of being alive.
I work in two-hour sessions or longer.
The reason for this is, I find two-hour sessions allow us to go slower and deeper than traditional “50-minute hour” therapy sessions or 60- or 90-minute bodywork sessions typically do. A two-hour session allows our sessions to flow and delve deeply into the topic, concern, or experience we are focusing on.
These longer sessions allow us to cover multiple topics (usually of increasing depth) within one session, often making connections between behaviors and experiences that would otherwise have remained separate.
I bring in a number of modalities and approaches to our work together including:
- Breath work
- Touch and bodywork, including Sexological Bodywork
- Depth psychology, including Archetypal and mythic approaches to life
- Erotic and Relational Neurobiology
- Body awareness
- Self-pleasure coaching
- Embodiment exercises
- Interactive or relational practices
- Grounding and centering techniques
- Mindful awareness and other Interpersonal Neurobiology
- Ritual design
- Sacred sexual practices and Erotic Alchemy
- Non-ordinary states of consciousness
- Trauma awareness and release
- And more. . .
This approach is best for those who have a specific problem or issue they are struggling with and are looking for support and guidance in achieving the desired change or outcome. Together we engage in a targeted, structured, results-driven series of sessions help to move you toward your goal.
In this approach, we work within session arcs in multiples of three based upon my praxis formula, either once a week or every other week until you are satisfied with the transformation you have experienced. We may or may not continue working together after your initial goal is met.
This option is for those looking to make large systemic changes to their way of being in the world, those who wish to delve deeper into their own patterns of behavior and and their own psyche, or those who wish to go through life with the compassionate support and empathic witnessing of a loving coach who knows you, sees you, and helps you to bring out the best of who you are in your relationships and every day life.
An ongoing support relationship can be achieved through regular weekly or every other week sessions. The benefits of an ongoing support relationship include the depth of insight that occurs with long-term therapeutic engagement, witnessing and transforming habits and behavior patterns that are not as visible within shorter-term coaching relationships, and more.
Many of my clients come in for targeted coaching and stay for ongoing support, but that is not required to have a powerful, transformative experience of embracing pleasure!
What Are Sessions Like?
The only set structure to our sessions is how we begin. I like to start every session with a guided grounding meditation to get us connected to our bodies, the earth, and the universe. We will then discuss what we would like the session to be focused on, if we do not have a focus already based on previous session work.
From there (depending on the needs of the session) we may continue our discussion, move into embodiment exercises, or engage in educational-therapeutic touch such as partnered embodiment exercises, cuddling, or bodywork.
I like to go s l o w, engaging in every moment with mindful awareness one breath at a time. So much of contemporary society is about moving fast, instant gratification, multitasking, etc. and transformation does not occur on a timeline.
I am also available for sessions lasting more than two hours, these 3 to 6 hour sessions are specifically designed for when you are feeling stuck around a particular issue and really want to delve into it, or for indulging in the experience of giving yourself many hours of personal, loving care and attention. Intensive sessions can be great for repeat clients who really want to dig into a particular issue they are stuck around, or clients who are visiting Seattle that desire to work with me, but have limited time to do so.
Intensive sessions may be available outside of Seattle for an additional travel fee, please contact me for more information.
Location & Hours
I practice out of a shared session space in a community home in the south end of Seattle, usually Monday to Friday between the hours of 10am and 7pm. If for whatever reason we are unable to connect during these hours, I occasionally accept appointments later in the evening or on weekends as necessary.