Meet Tai Fenix Kulystin

I am an identity and intimacy coach, embodiment educator, sacred sexuality practitioner and guide, priest/ess, and ritual artist. I have been facilitating classes, workshops, and sacred sexuality temples around the Pacific Northwest since 2011 and writing online about gender and sexuality since 2007.

I hold a Master's degree in Sacred Erotic Psychology from Antioch University Seattle. My degree and work is focused on the uniting of concepts from depth psychology, sacred sexuality, and erotic neurobiology to assist understanding of the Self through the erotic/alchemical union of the individual soul-spirit-body with others and the world.

I am currently studying to become a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP) through the International Association of Trauma Professionals. I am a Certified Sexological Bodyworker (CSB) through the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. I hold undergraduate degrees in Gender Studies (with an emphasis on queer and gender theory) and Psychology (with an emphasis on sexual behavior). I also have a certification in Transpersonal Hypnotherapy from the Institute for Therapeutic Learning, and I attended the Summer Institute on Sexuality, Culture, and Society at the University of Amsterdam. I maintain professional membership in the Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers (ACSB) and I adhere to Sexological Bodyworker's Professional Code of Ethics. I am a professional member of AASECT.

Personally, I identify as queer, trans, genderqueer, fem, fat, white, polyamorous, kinky, neurodivergent, and witchy. My pronouns are they/them/theirs.

As a student and practitioner of magic and witchcraft for over half of my life, I have a love of bringing the sacred and ritual into all aspects of my life and work. I am an Adept in the Open Source Order of the Golden Dawn, a practicing Witch, a practical and erotic Alchemist, and a Ritual Artist. For the past eleven years, I have been a devotee of The Red Goddess: Babalon. I have been working with her within a queer sex magic framework dedicated to personal growth, embodiment, eroticism, sacred kink, and much more.

I have dedicated my life, both personally and professionally, to practicing sacred sexual healing, encouraging personal spiritual and psychological growth in themselves and others, helping to foster the expansion of human consciousness, and furthering the healing of the earth.

Feel free to contact me with any questions or inquiries.

Credentials

  • Masters of Arts in Sacred Erotic Psychology, Antioch University Seattle
  • Sexological Bodywork Certificate, Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality
  • Sexuality, Culture, and Society Certificate, University of Amsterdam
  • Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers, Professional Member
  • American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists, Professional Member
  • International Association of Trauma Professionals, Member
  • Transpersonal Hypnotherapy Certificate, Institute for Therapeutic Learning
  • Bachelors of Science in Psychology, University of Utah
  • Bachelors of Science in Gender Studies, University of Utah

It is through my experience with disconnection that I have become interested in connection. Through my experience with struggling with my sexuality, desires, and disembodiment that I come to this work. It is because I have done the work to claim my sexuality, to repair my relationship with my body, to become more fully and truly myself, that I know I can help lead you through the same.

I grew up closed, depressed, and overall disconnected from those around me. I was a fat queer genderqueer kid in a society that discourages all of those experiences. I felt consistently alone and disconnected, even or especially when among friends. Even with (or maybe partially because of) all that disconnection I was fascinated by sexuality and everything surrounding it from a very early age. While I was in high school I participated in and lead queer rights activism groups and events in my hometown. I was the one my friends always came to with questions about sexuality and relationships.

Now I am in a conscious, committed, and polyamorous relationship with my anchor partner of well over a decade. Through the many years of this relationship I realized it was necessary for me to open up and cast aside my isolationist habits or lose the relationship. Working to break down the walls I had built up around myself was not easy, and I am still working to heal that rejected child part of myself.

Sacred sexuality was one of many shared interests that brought my partner and me together. We have always approached our relationship from a place of spirituality, including recognizing our connection with the divine with a dedication to use our relationship to foster growth in both ourselves and each other. This is one of the many factors that helped us commit to each other early on and make it through some tough times.

I work to engage in sacred relationship/sexuality as an intentionally lived daily practice and it has become part of the central focus of my life and a realization of my life’s work.